'Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own'.
How beautifully Rovert Anson Heinlein describes love, in his book Stranger in a Strange Land (1961). And how concisely he highlights the topic, which I would like to discuss today... what is the secret for a love to last? Is it realistic for a love to grow stronger day by day?
I observe people around me falling in love, being happy, being content and then, being angry, disturbed...out of love.
Why? I ask myself. If two individuals have been lucky enough to experience mutual love, why and how could they let this flee?
Routine, some will say. Carreer responsibilities, others will insist. The list could be endless, but what could we do to prevent this? What could save a relationship from becoming rotten?
Heinlein's quote shows that when our intimate other is happy, we are happy as well. Thus, we should think in advance! Will this action hurt my partner? Will that talk cause troubles as I don't really mean it? Am I just messing with his/her nerves? Am I really willing to do something that may have irreversible consequences?
Most importantly.. will he/she be happy? If our loved one is happy, this is mirrored back to us...
Their smile is our heaven!
...or is it not?
William Sommerset Maugham argues that ' The Love that lasts longer is the love that is never returned'. I believe that he wanted to express how unconditional and altruistic and selfless true love is... So, if we find ourselves in a true love relationship, a very rare but realistic "blessing", what will we do - consciously - to protect what we have?
I came down to undestand that being proactive is the key! :) Better thoughtful, than sorry!
Of course, this means extra effort.. But one should not be lazy in true love... :)
Cherish the moments, eavesdrop their latent notes and..
Be proactive, when in love!
Photo Sources:
1.http://www.pinterest.com/pin/73887250109839624/
2. http://secretlyloved.tumblr.com/post/1168443123/theres-always-gonna-be-that-guy-that-no-matter
True..to an extent. one can overdo being concerned about how the partner perceives one etc... with a great partner all these things should just flow without much thinking
ReplyDeleteIndeed, being over-concerned isn't useful either... but if there is a great partner and a lot lot lot of potential, just think twice :) since some actions can be irreversible. Being proactive then would mean not being fatalist. Choose your fate, in a sense...
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