Fairness and love

When I was a kid, I used to be very fair-minded. I used to base my relationships in justice, as I thought that is the best way to deal with people and situations. Innocent and pure at heart, as I was, I could not understand why individuals act in a non-fair way. For instance, I could not understand why my mother was spending only little amount of her time praising my good marks and so much of her time trying to help my brother to raise his marks.

One summer night, while I was in children' camp, my team leader and me had a very nice chat. During that conversation, I remember, she turned to me and said: "Margie, you spend too much time being fair and you forget about love". I was shocked! I couldn't believe that someone could perceive me as a non that loving person! In reality I knew I was caring and loving from inside, but after reflecting on her words, I could understand what she wanted to say to me. A whole new world appeared in front of me!

Love is discriminatory. One should not treat an acquaintance in the same way as a friend. One should not treat his/her significant other in the same way as someone else. Love forgives and love spoils. This is not necessarily good nor is bad. It is just the way it is... That night I realised that my preoccupation to be objective and fair did not allow me to treat the people I loved, with love! Which means that ultimately I was being unfair to them!

What I decided from that time was to be fair in the way I show my love to other people!  For my beloved ones I spend much more time/effort/attention than for acquaintances. I am more willing to do sacrifices for them, fight for them and I do forgive them more easily! :)

Of course, the circle of beloved ones is sacred...it is a two way process, in which you both receive and send back love. Undoubtedly, disappointments do exist. I do encounter people that let me down, but, on the other hand, my cute bunch of beloved ones have not! :) Don't they deserve a special treatment? I believe that the ones they do, they will not get spoiled; they will just appreciate. As I appreciate their love as well.

We have a set amount of energy and time everyday. May it be spent wisely.

A quick game for today!

Hi everybody  : ) 


today I think we should nurture our mind and soul with something entertaining! 

SO below you will find a find-a-word crossword!


What you have to do? You need to find 3 words! Any words! 


These words are the ones that describe your psychological condition right now!

Did it work? 


I think for me it did! :P When I played this game two days ago,the first words I found were "leave", "rage" & "passion". And I was feeling exactly like this!! I wanted to go on holidays, I was angry with a situation and passionate with my work!


So, as soon as I realised that, I asked myself all these 'why' questions.. 'why you want to go on holidays?', 'why you are angry with this?', 'why you love your work?'..

'Whys' are tricky, since they allow you to think about the cause! Is that cause important for you? If yes, then you are on the right track! If no, then why bother? :))) 

Do you want to succeed?

Maybe you are wondering how some people are able always to make it!

How come some individuals always find a way (a decent and fair way) to achieve their goals? To succeed??

I think the attribute that they possess more than others is called

d e t e r m i n a t i o n ! 

These people are determined to reach their goal no matter how difficult it is, no matter what they have to sacrifice! But, be careful! 

If you want to be like them and toachieve your objectives always you need to make sure:

a. To prioritise correctly. Just because an activity is more important for others, this doesn't mean it is as important for you!

b. To sacrifice other things. A day has 24 hours and they are enough to do our first priorities. 

So, if you really want to perform well at work, you may need to spend some more hours there until you learn to do some activities automatically. If you want to become an excellent salsa dancer, you need to go to the lessons every single time and decline any other invitations from friends that specific day. Similarly, if you want to pass your exams with a very good mark, you need to invest quite a substantial amount of time studying.This means sharing less time with friends, watching films, etc.

But, will you?? You need to think very well what makes you happy! And that should be your first priority! =))

And don't cheat! I mean what makes you happy in the long term! Make sacrifices for what or for whom is worth making sacrifices for!

I am very sure that while you are reading this, you have just had in mind one activity/person/thing that should be your priority! : )

Go for it!

And me, I will give you this motivational quote as a pat on the back! So far it is the most encouraging quote I have ever seen.. it is written by Matthew Napier, who also holds a blogspot account.


The quote tells you why he succeeds...that's determination, isn't it?! 





What about you? 

I suggest you come back to this post, every now and then, to get some boost for your motivation! :))  

Now, that you found your priority, are you determined? Take a deep breath...GO! ! !

You 're gonna make it!

Sources:

Quote in Black Font written by Matthew Napier: http://matthewnapier.blogspot.co.uk/2010/03/why-do-i-succeed.html

Are you the artist of your own life?

Good morning! :))

It's been a week since my last post, but now I have been inspired again and "I will write all down", as Shakespeare said in his Cymbeline II. =)

Yesterday, Maya Aggelou, an American author and poet, posted on her facebook status: "Life is pure adventure, and the sooner we realized that, the quicker we will be able to treat life as art". Wow!! What a quote!! 

Indeed, life is an adventure, our own one. We are the ones that decide if we will use crayons or watercolours. We may not get the colour we thought we would, but it's in our will to appreciate the new, 'unexpected' colour, find it beautiful or hate it forever. 

They say that an artist finds beautiful what everybody else finds it weird..and this could be an image, a song, a feeling, even an experience. We don't have to regret about past mistakes in our life- they taught us a lot.. actually never encounter them as mistakes..they are opportunities to fully experience life! =)

With the above quote, I feel that Maya Aggelou urges us not to be afraid to live! She invites us to experience life without fears,  to write our own song lyrics and sing it in our own special way. An artist experiences days of inspiration and flow, and days filled with boredom, without any ideas or motivation. And that is o.k. =) Artists know that inspiration comes and goes, like a life cycle..

I conclude with a quote from Seneca: "The whole future lies in uncertainty. Live immediately". So, till the next time, treat life as art - live imnmediately! : )

What is that?

Ok, today I have been writing a lot for my PhD (yeap, I do one of this!) so I want to share with you a short-film of 5:31 minutes without comments. .

I will let you make your own thoughts, draw your own conclusions, but I am sure the film will make you look at things quite differently!

Till the next time.. enjoy life! : )

Take off your masks, now!

Hello, hello! :)

First of all, I would like to say that now everybody can comment on the posts! A friend of mine informed me that he couldn't comment, so I made the necessary changes to the settings! DONE! 

Now,what I would like to talk about today is authenticity. This is a very special term for me. It comes from the greek work αυθεντικός (authentikos), which means original. According to wikipedia, the word refers to the truthfulness of origins, attributions, commitments, sincerity, devotion, and intentions.

Unfortunately, today most of us are "obliged" by society to wear different masks..everyday! In the office, with the friends, with the significant other, with acquaintances, with strangers... But like this, it is highly possible that we get used to be a different person and that we forget what we really are, how we really want to behave, how we really would like the others to remember us. . . 

I made all these thoughts by this picture I saw today on the web. This quote is so true.

Everybody can recollect of persons who try to hide so obviously their true selves. This does not leave a good impression for sure. We feel that these individuals are fake. But why they act like this? Don't they like themselves? Do they think society will not accept them as they really are? I don't know... I would like your input in that!

However, what I do believe is that Earth has 7 billion people!! I am sure someone will be like me and will not find me odd (well, at least not completely! :P). On the same time, I feel that by being ME and just myself, I can contribute my originality to this world...my ideas, my creativity, my dreams! And by saying me, I mean YOU, I mean US, the human species. 

Everybody is so different, but at the same time so similar! Why not use these synergies to create something good? Why should we hide behind masks that society imposes? 

Can you recollect of a person who is trully original? How do you feel when you are around such people? I feel great! =) I feel like I "invest" my time and not just spend it talking with a fake person for fake situations... For me, it's a bless to have such people around you! =) And that's how I would like to be perceived by others, as a person that deserves their time!

What about you? 

Have you made your choice?

I hope you dance!

Do you like dancing? I love it! : )


Today though, I will talk about another dance.. the dance of LIFE! =) 
And I will talk through the lyrics of a song, as it describes exactly how I feel people should deal with the ups and downs of their life. :)

This version is performed by Ronan Keating. Songwriters: Sanders, Mark D. and Sillers, Tia.

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat, but always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance
and when you get the choice to sit it out or dance,
I hope you dance, I hope you dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances, but they're worth taking
Loving might be a mistake but it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out, reconsider
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance,
I hope you dance (time is a wheel in constant motion always)
I hope you dance (rolling us along)
I hope you dance (tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder)
I hope you dance (where those years have gone)

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance,


Dance! ! ! I hope you Dance,
I hope you dance (time is wheel in constant motion always)
I hope you dance (rolling us along)
I hope you dance (tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder)
I hope you dance (where those years have gone)
(tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder) (where those years have gone)